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January 8, 2017 by Ellen Moore 1 Comment

I’m tired of training nurses.

Perhaps I should view each new nurse as an opportunity for improvement. I do. I find that the perspective shift doesn’t remove the reality that I’m simply tired of it. Every time a new nurse starts, we wonder if she’s going to do a good job. And every time a new nurse starts, we have to train her on the big things like Catherine’s seizures and the little things like how I’ve arranged the clothes in Catherine’s drawers so it stays somewhat orderly. With each orientation, I open the drawer of Catherine’s dresser and show how her shirts are filed by color in an attempt to bring some order to what is inherently chaotic in our lives. Rarely are they as neat and organized as I want it done or I would do it myself. Yet I’m grateful for the help to put away her clothes, which the nurses certainly don’t have to do. I don’t feel like I can complain or correct. In fact, the order of her drawers metaphorically expresses the order in our lives – or not.

Think about it… imagine having some random person in your home every single day of every single week of every single month for the past 9 years. We didn’t get nursing until Catherine was about 3 years old, and as much as I can’t conceive how our family would function without the help, it is a significant intrusion to have to accept. Brian and I could not work and go to school without a nurse helping us. It’s that simple. As nice and helpful and important as these people are, they are not part of our family. They are more like a growth on the side of our family. For example, even as I’m writing this, a nurse sits behind me finishing her report, and I’m mindful I need to turn and get report of Catherine’s night from her.

I used to wonder if the agency trained them to think about the place they take in a family. Brian and I dampen our disagreements when nurses are here, though on occasion, they have heard us fight. He detests that and I don’t blame him.  Imagine what it’s like to want to share joy with your spouse and see a nurse first instead. Think about a nurse being the first person you see after a bad day. I remember the days after I lost my job. Our nurse knew something big was going on and I didn’t want to share it with her. That’s a little odd to say the least. I mean, she was in our home every single day for hours! And she couldn’t really comfort me yet I’m certain she wanted to make me feel better. All nurses want to help. The truth is that they wind up a centerpiece of your life, and somehow they stay on the outside at the same time.

So, when I think about training more nurses, yet again, it’s not just about the location of syringes and the physical manifestation of Catherine’s seizures. That’s the easy part. It’s about how we wind up absorbing them into the family. Even though they’re actually outside it.

Filed Under: Acceptance - or Not Tagged With: family, nurse

Hi, I’m Ellen

I’m just a mom making my way, but my way is a little different. And yet, very much the same. I have a 13-year-old daughter, Catherine, who was born at 25 weeks and weighed one pound, nine ounces. Despite a very severe brain bleed, she lived and inspires me every day with all she works so hard to do... Read More…

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